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Three Reasons People Fail and What to Do About It

Why do people fail? Why do their dreams fail to take root? We’d like to believe that the answer lies at the other end of asking, ‘Why do people succeed?’ We pretty much know why we succeed. Earl Nightingale said it best: Success is the progressive realization of a worthy ideal.

In many ways, though, the truth is embedded somewhere in between – people fail or succeed in the middle ground between belief and habit, between low aim and goal, between fear and faith. We fail for many reasons, but failure can be summed up in one word: attitude. A change in our attitude can result in a change in our circumstances. Here are three common attitudes that cause people to fail and what to do about it.

We Are Conditioned to Fail

We are surrounded by a twenty-four hour news cycle and it’s killing our internal mechanism for success. Motivation-inhibitors now rule just about every part of the American human psyche; everything from “I can’t” to “I’m too___” (Insert your own: fat, old, young, skinny, inexperienced etc.)


Recognize the side effects of conditioning. Catch yourself when using such phrases as “I can’t” or “I’m too old”, “too fat”, “too inexperienced”. These are thoughts which creep into our subconscious mind on a daily basis and they become the habits that dominate our daily experiences. Elevate your awareness. Don’t give in to your fears. Spend time in silence and watch your courage build. Paulo Coelho writes, There is just one thing that makes your dream become impossible: the fear of failure.

We Focus Too Much on the ‘How’

Take a poll and ask one hundred people who wanted to start a business or who had actually taken the first step why they had been stymied in their dream and I guarantee you at least ninety percent of respondents will say they became discouraged with the ‘how’ of their desire. ‘How’ is cash on hand, capitalization, support of friends, knowledge of industry, zero bank account etc. ‘How’ has buried many a dream and caused not a few people to abandon their aspirations.


It is not your job to focus on the ‘how’; leave that to a power far greater than you. Turn your attention to the ‘what’ and the ‘why’. Once you figure out what you were born to do, the why will come into focus. Then you’ll determine that the how is moving toward you with breathtaking speed. The most difficult thing is the decision to act, the rest is merely tenacity, writes Amelia Earhart.

We Expect Instant Results

When we have instant hopes we usually expect instant results. Sadly, this is rarely the case. Most people, according to statistics, fail in their start-up dreams within one to three years of launching. They run into cash shortages, extra bills and a dearth of resilience. The end comes quickly.


By perseverance the snail reached the ark, writes the venerable Charles Spurgeon. Such is the cure for the instant gratification we witness in our culture. Don’t fall into that trap. Plant the seed. Nurture it. Leave the earth undisturbed. Develop patience as the plant – financial freedom, promotion, relationship – sprouts into your wildest dreams.

A change in our attitude can result in a change in our circumstances.


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Our God Power

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An Interview with Author W. Eric Croomes


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Three Reasons Fitness Over Forty is Important

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When you reach forty you reach a milestone. Young adulthood ends and middle-age begins. For some, it’s a seamless transition. For many who have been idle and leading sedentary lifestyles for much of their young adulthood, it is a time fret with potentially negative health outcomes. Issues of heart disease, diabetes, cancers and other metabolic issues – long on the radar – now can all of a sudden cause major disruptions in the quality of one’s life. It’s important to eat right, exercise properly and manage stress in order to get the most of your forties.

So if you are on the brink of forty and you want to ramp up your fitness level, consider these three reasons why fitness over forty is important!


You Will Slow Down the Ageing Process

Get fit in your forties because in doing so you slow down the ageing process. If you have been sedentary up to this point, you are ageing twice as fast what’s considered normal. By getting fit over forty, you will build muscle and burn fat, which can literally add years to your life. The best way to achieve this effect is to use short, explosive exercises in a routine known as H.I.I.T. exercise. H.I.I.T stands for High Intensity Interval Training. H.I.I.T. builds muscle and burns fat at a far greater rate than conventional exercise. Plus, it’s great for stabilizing blood sugar levels and you more effectively manage blood pressure and blood cholesterol results, too. If H.I.I.T is too much for you, consider hiring a personal trainer to offer you expertise and guidance as you move through the preliminary levels of exercise.


You Will Enhance Your Holistic Wellness

We now know more about the ‘mind-body’ connection and how the brain plays such an integral role in how the body responds to exercise. In fact, getting fit over forty is not just a workout for the body; it’s also a medicine for mind and spirit as well. That’s because when the body moves at an accelerated pace, even for just a few minutes, it signals the brain to release ‘feel good’ endorphins throughout the body. This ‘feel-good’ phenomenon is experienced throughout the entire mind-body politic. It also goes a long way toward helping to alleviate or eliminate stress and anxiety triggers.

When you feel good, you look good. When you look good, you feel good. Spiritually, getting fit over forty places you closer to your Divinity. It leads to a greater appreciation of and care for your body.


You Will Decrease Inflammation and Joint Pain

Over one hundred million Americans experience some kind of chronic pain in their adult lives. One of the biggest takeaways from getting fit over forty is that you will learn to use your natural bodyweight to keep your body strong and manage joint and chronic pain. A lot of people experience weak areas at the joints. The use of barbells and other weights only intensifies the discomfort, especially if it’s something that has been building since your thirties.

Using your natural body weight can alleviate pain in the joints. Exercises such as push-ups, squats and planks, when varied in frequency and duration, can keep muscles strong well into old age.

Eat right, exercise often and manage stress and you will be fit as you move into your forties!

Staff Writer; W. Eric Croomes

This talented brother is a holistic lifestyle exercise expert and founder and executive coach of Infinite Strategies LLC, a multi-level coaching firm that develops and executes strategies for fitness training, youth achievement and lifestyle management. Eric is an author, fitness professional, holistic life coach and motivational speaker.

In October 2015, Eric released Life’s A Gym: Seven Fitness Principles to Get the Best of Both, which shows readers how to use exercise to attract a feeling of wellness, success and freedom (Infinite Strategies Coaching LLC, 2015) – http://www.infinitestrategiescoaching.com.

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You have got to decide, look, this is who I am; this is my best way to present myself, and I’m going to ride that horse to the finish line. Not everybody will like it, but that’s OK.

-Dr. Phil

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Life’s Most Victorious Posture

Today, to get the best of your life and live victoriously:

Live with your

feet forward

shoulders squared

back straight, chin up and breathe!

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Failure is an Option but Success Pays More!

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As another academic school year unfolds across America, it’s important we take a moment and consider what we as parents, caregivers, and advocates can do to lay a solid foundation for the academic success of our youth.  For our community in particular it’s a supremely urgent task, as test scores show that our youth – our black males especially – are continually lagging behind the academic performance of other ethnic peer groups.  The abolitionist Frederick Douglas once said, “It is easier to build strong children than to repair broken men.”

Regardless of cause, there gaps remain in the academic performance of African-American and Hispanic youth relative to their White peers.  The end of the achievement gap will begin in our own home.  Let’s invest in success with these five steps.

  1. Do a DVD Detox

As a fitness professional, I am constantly coaching my clients to ‘detox’ not only their bodies, but their kitchen pantry, as well. I have the same attitude toward the glut of DVD movies that occupy many homes in our communities.  There are tons of DVD movies and very few, if any at all, books in our homes.  Somehow we have got to resist the urge to pop in a movie to satisfy the attention of our children.  A home full of DVD movies is as toxic to a kid’s brain as a pantry full of sugar-ladened cereal boxes are to their bodies. Detox your home of DVD movies!

  1. Make Reading a Priority

Which leads me to my next point: it’s time we reinstitute reading as a priority in our homes.  Reading is the vehicle that can and will close the achievement gap both in our homes and nationally.  The five worst words a parent with early childhood children can say is: “everybody don’t like to read.” Reading improves a child’s imagination, improves their concentration and teaches a child about the world outside their experience. Phillip Jackson, of the Black Star Project, an education advocacy group, suggests we should teach our children to read at grade-level by third grade.


  1. Take the television out of the Bedroom

A recent study suggested that the education achievement gap has linearly increased alongside the advance of the number of televisions Americans have purchased since the nineteen-fifties. Not only have televisions in every room of the typical American home eroded the bonding tendencies of the family structure, it has also crept into the academic potential of youth. A television in the bedroom of our youth is the epicenter of the achievement gap. Television and DVD movies cripple the intellectual capacities of early-childhood development.

  1. Cure ourselves of ‘Excusitis’

Yes, funding for urban schools is lower than that of suburban schools; yes, inequities exist in the application of standardized testing and yes, there is a dearth of positive, black male role models in our communities.  But can we afford to use these and other realities as excuses? I say no. As adults, we must be the first to outlaw excuses. We must then demand the same of our youth.  We must insist on excellence – that they give their very best – academically and otherwise.  Previous generations have accomplished more with much less resources and advantages than our present circumstances.


  1. Get actively involved

You can argue that this is the primary reason for the existence of the achievement gap. We tend to believe that once we have raised our own children into adults, our job is done.  Truth be told, our job is just beginning!  There are far too many of our youth who languish in mediocrity; who are being assigned an inferior academic status and who are riding first-class on the non-stop, school-to-prison pipeline. Active involvement is not limited to joining a mentoring or volunteer program in your community or church.  Awesome if you do!  At the least, though, identifying a youth or two at church or in your community and making it your job to encourage them to do better; to pat them on the back and tell them their doing a good job goes a long way toward motivating them to success.


Young people thrive on self-worth; their eyes light up when they realize they can indeed succeed and when they are exposed to examples of others who have succeeded.

Let’s infuse them with success mantras and affirmations; let’s get them declaring and then acting as if they are successful and understanding that failure is indeed an option – but success pays more!

The end of the achievement gap will begin in our own home.

W. Eric Croomes is a Transformation Coach and Inspirational Speaker. Book Eric at: